Why Your Comment is Ignored – Ugh, me hates a lazy ass comment
You found it! The very post you needed on personal branding. It’s like 1200 words, but who the hell cares, cus’ it’s giving you some content that even you think you shouldn’t be getting for free!
Whoa, 42 comments already? You feel like everyone else does, this-is-sharable! You do as asked, as compelled, and you leave your comment. You show sum luv!
Bonus! The site uses Commentluv so you’re going to get some backlinakage outta this. You craft it, submit it and wait for approval.
Hmmm, 2 days later and it’s still in moderation status? Hmmm…
So like my comment wasn’t good enough for your blog?
I dunno about you guys but I sure as spit don’t like, nay, I can’t stand it when I comment on a blog and the blogger can’t be bothered to comment back or at the very least approve the dern thing.
Then again, I can understand why some comments gets no luvin.
They’re, uhm, lazy.
I know I won’t approve a comment or return the favor for a lazy ass comment. I think, “ I know you’re just using my site for a backlink opp sucka! Click, click deleted!”
So I said it. I’m proud of it and I’m gonna stick with it. Me hates a lazy ass comment.
Seriously though, do you know how long it takes to get a great post, full of some of the best tips out in the blogosphere? Especially if it’s a longer post?
Okay, maybe not 2 hours, seeing that most great blogs use an outline for easily creating awesomeness called blog posts, but still. It takes times. Invested time that the writer can’t get back.
So if you liked it enough to comment, why not really say something? If you see your comments aren’t getting much attention, and assuming the blogger actively engages her audience, you need to ask yourself:
Am I joining the conversation?
Are you a conversationalist?
See, I don’t think every comment is created equal. I believe that the more you give the more you receive.
I don’t write my blog so it can sit online and do nothing. I want engagement. I want to help someone. I want subscribers.
Engagement happens when conversations are born. Conversations take more than a comment saying, “Great post friend. Sharing now.” The link to your blog has more characters than that lazy comment.
You’ve heard it too many times to forget. Great posts that people love sharing hit a nerve.
They delight you, entertain you, make you lol, or piss you off.
If you feel anything at all when you read a post, enough to comment, don’t waste that time not saying something relevant. Join the conversation. Start a new one. But for the sake of bunny rabbits converse!!!
Some reasons your comments get ignored
In all fairness this is just my blog. So I can’t speak for what you’re doing wrong elsewhere. But, how you do anything is how you do everything so I’m assuming your comments are consistent.
If you feel like you’re adding value to a blog posts conversation then this list of reasons should help you too.
Let’s face it, we all want to know why we were rejected. If for no other reason than to prevent the ice cream binge.
So in an effort to keep you from eating 1000 calories in cream and sugar alone…
Here are reasons your comment is getting ignored.
1. You’re not “In”.
Yup were back in high school and you are NOT a cool kid. Or they don’t know you are. See blogging is a big business with influential heavy hitters that hang out. With each other. If you are not where they are, chances are they won’t recognize your name.
So even if you leave an insightful well thought out comment. It won’t get a response.
Simply because they don’t knw who you are.
Remedy: the fix is a simple one. Comment on their blog posts 3 weeks in a row. Share their posts and join their twitter conversations.
Tip: It helps if all your usernames are the same, or your picture is the same. Put a face to a name they’ll see consistently. That should do the trick.
If after you do that and still no luvin in return you can make one more attempt. Send them an email telling them how much you love their posts and ask a simple question regarding what they do.
2. Your comment got the “s” word
Spammed! A lot more often than we site owners care to admit, comments can get spammed without reason. So, if you know the blogger you’re trying to interact with responds to their commenters and you’re joining the conversation, it doesn’t hurt to ask.
Remedy: Send the blogger a quick email saying how much you love their blog but that you’re worried your comments are falling into spam. Say that you recently went through this with your site and you just wanted to reach out, and that you’ll keep commenting anyway.
3. Comment overload
You ever been to the blogs that get 50 comments within the first 30 minutes the post goes live? Well they might be overloaded with comments that they missed yours. Literally.
Remedy: Sharing is caring. Post a status update on FB or G+ about the posts massive comment count and how you keep trying to be commentor #1 but you always get to it 1 hour late. Or you can include their post as a reference in one of yours.
It just gets more attention. The more a blogger recognizes you, the more likely they are to engage you. Especially a popular blogger.
4. Uh, what are you talking about?
Stay Focused man! Are you ranting or being salesy in your comment? If you’re not staying focused your comment will generally be deleted or spammed, let alone replied to.
Remedy: An easy way to stay on topic is to quote the blogger. Pull out a sentence that resonated with you and acknowledge it in your comment. Then expound on it.
5. It’s not organic.
You’re doing it because you have to. For instance, you are a part of a group and it’s “blog” day. So you’re all hoping around to each other’s sites. You don’t really read the blog outside of having to. The blogger knows that so your comment gets a thanks at most. No real engagement.
Remedy: Be authentic. Don’t always be politically correct. If you like what the posts says great, be detailed. Maybe make an effort to interact with the blogger outside of “blog” day.
If you disagree, say so. Like I said above, start a conversation. But always be authentic. If the blogger still isn’t engaging enough for you, stop commenting.
6. Lazy ass comment
Well we covered this one right? You know what to do to not be a lazy commenter; stop being in it for yourself. Give value and it’ll be returned. Now get to it.
I had to say it. Sorry if you feel offended, well not really, I hope you are. I hope you have a new understanding of what a blogger really look for in a comment. And a better idea of what to do to improve your commenting.
Go forth and comment responsibly!
How do you feel about ignored comments? Let me know, by commenting!
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I’m not offended! I totally agree with your point. Great post. (If I left it here no doubt I’d be dumped!)
I didn’t realise how many people didn’t know about genuine comments going into spam until a conversation recently with some bloggers on Facebook. Some of them didn’t even know how to get into the spam folder, so it was great to be able to help out and share some useful information.
And your comment about popular blogs and being first commenter made me laugh – I might even get first comment on here today!
Can’t think of a sales pitch that fits with this – oh, yes, that’s another no no, isn’t it…
Really great post, made me smile all the way through. I’m guessing you might be American too as the phrase ‘lazy ass comment’ isn’t terribly British, but a great phrase and I might even steal it for future use!
Enjoy the journey.
Mandy
Mandy! Hahahaha I love it! And thanks you for following awesome commenting practices. I read a blog post on the spam situation and it really concerned me too. The spam folder is front and center in my dashboard with a big 0 next to it. I wonder how it gets missed? Whelp, at least now people know and can discover their lost commenters!
I’m happy you aren’t offended because that means you get it and that you’re a student of our crazy industry. Brava Mandy! Yup, I’m American! But I haven’t seen others use ‘lazy ass comment’ it’s a bit aggressive lol and not too many bloggers like rockin’ the boat. Me-I’ll flip the sucker if it means finding the whole truth!
And you are numero uno! But it wouldn’t matter to me, all my commenters are important, yes even the lazy ones, and i respond to them all. Unless of course you’re just really, blatantly breaking the rules. The its “click, click DELETED!”
Please! Let’s keep in circulation. I’m officially boycotting Lazy Ass Comments! See ya soon Mandy, enjoy your week!
Just so happens that today Mys I had two people talk to me about my comments. One guy didn’t like it that he had to actually type a few words before leaving me a comment. Oh yeah, I have that function set on my CommentLuv Premium plug-in just for those lazy people. I politely told him if he wasn’t happy with the way I did things on “my blog” he certainly did not have to come back.
Then I had another guy write a comment and he emailed me asking to take it out of spam. It wasn’t in spam, he added a link and I have to moderate those because we know what kind of slippery people try to get their stuff shoved through our little old systems.
You know I agree with you about this topic so I hope people will listen up and hear what you’re saying because trust me guys, Mys is only trying to help “you” become a better communicator. Trust me, it will pay off.
Love this topic young lady!!!
~Adrienne
Wow! Seriously? People still bother with those types of emails Adrienne? I’m surprised, a little. Yup you spotted one. A lazy ass commenter.
That’s what he get’s! Ugh I’ve been trying to uninstall disqus so I can use my CommentLuv and their so called support is being lazy as hell! But as soon as I can configure it I’m putting the breaks on the one worders too!
Thanks, what she said guys! It’s about communication. Not everyone is a written savant but so what. Just talk. Converse. Be you. There’s a lot more to you and what you really think than “great post”. No mas! No mas lazy ass comments!!!
Thanks hun, Talk soon!
Dag Mys… now I gotta be me because, well, you and especially Adrienne wouldn’t expect anything less of me.
I’ll start off with when people don’t approve my comments. Most of the time I could care less; it’s on them because I don’t leave lame comments, and if those people don’t understand the importance of not only approving comments but responding to them, that’s their problem.
Next, comments I won’t approve. I don’t approve any comments that don’t pertain specifically to the post. I don’t approve any comments with bad language in them. Any post with a link goes to spam first and I’ll check things out from there. And sometimes I don’t approve posts that are badly written, such as no spaces between period and the next sentence or no punctuation or capitalization at all, especially if I decide to follow the link back to their site and see it’s written way better than the comment; I just assume those are paid commenters and move on.
But if I approve a comment, I’ll reply to a comment. Overall I don’t think my standards are as tough as Adrienne’s are (we’ve talked about that in the past lol) but if one doesn’t have standards then they have nothing to stand on.
Mitch c’mon now. You know you don’t even have to say it. I NEED you to be you! It wouldn’t be any fun any other way!!!
Ahem (clears throat), If I found out that you were leaving lass ass comments, yo, it would be me and you! You’re waaaaaaaaay to awesome for such shenanigans. But I know you don’t because you comment here, whoop!
So of course you get +’s for that, yes?
Now I totally understand what you mean about lame-o’s who decide that your post is just a backlink source. Ugh and I say again “click, click, deleted!!!”
As for punctuation, IT happens to the best of us. Typonese is fast becoming as prominent as English, BUT, with what you describe they’d get unapproved to.
So I award you an Awesome Commenting Practices Award, because you refuse to be (and approve) lazy ass comments!
Who has the time of day to do all of this? It’s not being lazy. It’s so time consuming. I’d rather go get a massage, get my hair and nails done.
How much reading can a human being do in a 24 hour period?
WELCOME! One way or the other you’ve decided to comment so whether you’d have rather been shopping or otherwise, you are appreciated.
END PLEASANTRIES
Well, honestly this post isn’t for you my dear. I love that you disagree (ah the democracy of it all!). I think you’re missing the point!
If you read a post and feel it is of value then you should be compelled to speak your mind. That’s what it boils down to for us all. Communication! Becoming better in our communication with one another with all of the worlds distractions like facebook and, erh, nail salons.
I urge you though, if you are a site owner, a blogger, a writer then you seem to have a negative attitude towards engagement and relationships building, you should really see a doc about that.
I’m a helper, a solutions persons, so I’m sincerely worried. If you’re a site owner, blogger, marketer, etc…
IF not, then go get your nails done! Don’t forget the Shalak! Love the product, nails last for weeks and it doesn’t lift. Uhm YES! lol
And lastly, If you’re doing a lot of reading in this 24 hour period and the content merely isn’t worth your time to leave a 3 line or more comment you should decide if it’s worth reading again (the site or the blog, not the same post).
I get it you’re like, super busy, but aren’t we all?
Either way thanks again, maybe I’ll see ya around here plunking around, maybe not, my posts run kinds’ long and I wouldn’t want to be a reason your 24 hours isn’t fully productive. NO matter though, I appreciate you now, and again, if given the chance to.
Food for thought. Enjoy your massage. And hair appointment. And nails. You fly lady you. Ta ta!
I have to totally agree with you on this one Mys.
Nothing worse than someone leaving a comment like “Great post”, how can you respond to that?
If you are going to comment, have something to say, agree and say why you agree, or disagree and also say why.
I don’t approve any comments with links in the comment, I am not there to be a link farm. You already have the opportunity of having your link on my blog, by virtue of you posting.
I have to totally agree with you on this one Mys.
Nothing worse than someone leaving a comment like “Great post”, how can you respond to that?
If you are going to comment, have something to say, agree and say why you agree, or disagree and also say why.
I don’t approve any comments with links in the comment, I am not there to be a link farm. You already have the opportunity of having your link on my blog, by virtue of you posting.
I have to totally agree with you on this one Mys.
Nothing worse than someone leaving a comment like “Great post”, how can you respond to that?
If you are going to comment, have something to say, agree and say why you agree, or disagree and also say why.
I don’t approve any comments with links in the comment, I am not there to be a link farm. You already have the opportunity of having your link on my blog, by virtue of you posting.
I have to totally agree with you on this one Mys.
Nothing worse than someone leaving a comment like “Great post”, how can you respond to that?
If you are going to comment, have something to say, agree and say why you agree, or disagree and also say why.
I don’t approve any comments with links in the comment, I am not there to be a link farm. You already have the opportunity of having your link on my blog, by virtue of you posting.
Hey George,
Exactly! This whole blogging thing is about communication and engagement. Leaving a generic comment is pointless and a waste of time for both the blogger and the commenter.
The bottom line is, if you don’t see the value in reading and commenting to build a relationship, and you only want the information. Don’t bother leaving hap hazard comments. Just move one with your day!
Hey Mys a great post as ever and you bring up lots of interesting points. I totally agree about the ‘lazy comments’ people leave and how annoying it is when your comment is in moderation for days.
The one about people not replying to comments is an interesting one and one I see a lot of complaints/comments about in a Tribe we are in.
I totally resect people who take the time to comment on my posts and share them and my aim is to reply to each one individually and also visit their blogs.
However, during the past ten days I have been ill and had a lot of personal stuff going on so you do not know the guilt I have been feeling as I have not managed to do this!
Hopefully, as I have built up a relationship with a lot of these people and they know my usual practice I will be forgiven!
Thanks again
Angus
Oh absolutely! I think people take way too much advantage of those who take the time to comment. It’s bogus! And I personally will stop commenting if I see the response is either generic or non existent. My time is too valuable.
I know how that is. I just moved to ATL about a month ago and I’m struggling to get my content schedule on track so i get the stress and oh the guilt lol. But you’re genuine and your tribe and networks will understand. We can’t sweat the small stuff ya know? Feel better Gus!
Hey Mys,
This was a very informative post indeed. I’m so new I’ve never had a comment rejected or have had to reject one. I think the best part of blogging is the engagement. I like to tell an author what I think and I like to hear back from folks about what I’ve written. That’s what makes it fun and interesting…to me at least.
I will definitely heed your words of advice – leave some quality or don’t leave anything at all.
Thanks for this post!
Jess
JESS!!!! Yay, so happy you decided to join in the convo! See it isn’t so bad right?
Well I’m glad you haven’t had to deal with it just yet because it’s so frustrating! I have responded to every single comment and I plan to continue to do so. Engage if you’re going to comment or just read, soak up the info and move on. Have an awesome hump day Jessica we’ll definitely talk soon!
This post didn’t go where I thought it was going, at all! Which is great, because you touched on some of the real and valid reasons comments are sometimes missed or spammed. And you gave great strategies for fixing it.
Of course, there are days I’m a lazy a** commenter. And days when I sit there staring at the screen because I’m just dog tired after a long day at work, and have nothing intelligent to say. Some days, “great post” (without caps) is all I can muster, and it is all I can do not to laugh myself into a stupor as I resist the urge. Overload works both ways.
You’re right, it can’t be forced and this is why I don’t do “blog days” and jump on reciprocity hamster wheels. I wish I had it in me, but the spirit has to move me first.
Thanks for stopping by my blog, earlier, Mys.
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Hi Holly! Thank you so much for visiting I sincerely appreciate you taking the time.
Haha! I’m glad you got the unexpected. This is very real for me and for all of us bloggers really. Comments are the cornerstone of our engagement efforts. And here’s the thing. If I know you and you’re usually insightful on my blog, I’ll accept the lazy ass comment here and there. I’ll call you on it, lovingly of course, but I’ll still approve it.
Because I know you’re no bit link hustler trying to grab a do follow wherever the law allows!
I do that. A lot actually. The strategy thing. I love actionable tips. Vague “this is what you do wrong” wanna be tip posts bug the heck outta me. So I try to offer what I’d want to receive, it’s worked pretty well so far.
It so can’t be forced Holly! I’m a rebel by nature, so some things, I just can’t commit to up keeping. So I feels ya! Reciprocity still has to be genuine. don’t comment on my blog because I commented on yours. Comment because you want to.
You’re so welcome! Your style has moxi, I likes moxi. So you can bet that I’ll be back. I hope you come visit me and my rantings again soon!
Big weekend plans?
Mys, I never comment JUST because someone comments on my blog (I do try to reply to all comments THERE – it’d be weird to leave guests shouting in my entryway, talking to the walls!) – drives some of my good friends nuts, I’m sure. They want me to come comment? Happy to, but sometimes they need to bop me on the head and remind me it even matters to them. I am just absentminded, some days, especially when I’m tired.
I think you just summed it up – it’s those vague and formulaic “here’s you doing it all wrong” posts that tend to PUT me on autopilot, sometimes. I don’t even know why I bother skimming those. OH well. (I have one good friend – a regular reader who doesn’t blog – who bops me on the head – metaphorically, of course – and tells me to clean up my act when I indulge in “metablogging.” Keeps me on my toes, and I love it!)
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Me either Holly, it’s so disingenuous! It’s why I think so many bloggers feel a bit slighted. If you want my comment your content better make we want to comment. That’s all I expect in return. If you’re not feelin’ my posts. Awesome on to the next site you go. No obligation. But like you, all my commentators get responses. Why else have the comment form if you’re not going to engage back. It’s awesome blogging practices!
Heh…you just used my favorite word: “disingenuous.”
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Lol It’s one of my favies too. I knew I would like you!